Hey there friend! So, I just learned the other day that my boyfriend has been using a penis pump and doing jelqing – you know where a guy does stretches and massages to his Penis Rings for enlargement. People have recommended them in the past, but now he’s doing them and I’m a little out of my element.
So, I asked him how long after using the pump and jelqing I should wait until he and I can have sex. Poor guy – he looked so nervous when I asked him. He said it could take up to thirty minutes or even an hour before he started to feel comfortable. For dildos me, that’s a bit of a wait if you know what I mean!
I wanted to be supportive, so I suggested he breaks up the activities before sex. So, after his jelqing session he should start with just the penis pump and do that for a few minutes to get the blood flow going. Then, after another few minutes he can start with the light stretching and massaging techniques he does. That way, the time it takes for us to have sex isn’t drastically reduced, but we can keep things going in the mean time.
The idea of breaking up the activities before sex also made me think – I remembered back to when we went to sex ed classes in school and our instructor explained the concept of foreplay. Now, I know that’s sort of a given and something we do anyways, but it made me realize there are different ways to approach it. Instead of feeling stressed out and trying to rush to sex, why not use this time before sex to start exploring and engaging with each other in different ways?
We haven’t tried that yet, but I’m excited about it. First, we can talk about what we want for ourselves and each other in our relationship. Then, when we are both truly relax and comfortable, I suggest we start by exploring massaging each other – we can explore different methods of stimulating each other. This way, we can find what we like and also make sure our partner is comfortable and enjoying it too!
The idea of exploring before sex has me so excited – I feel like a whole new world of possibilities are opening up! Plus, the added bonus of a longer period of time before sex ensures that we can have a truly enjoyable experience. I’m sure my boyfriend is just as excited about it as I am, and he’s been open and receptive to the idea, which has been really cool. Now all that’s left to do is give this new method a try and wait and see how things turn out!